- Male, because Shepard's male VA is bloody fantastic. Plus some of those facial animations on stock Shepard are beyond hilarious.
- I always use each game's trick to max out paragon and then go about 50% renegade. That way I can say I'm a goddamn bloody hero who doesn't take any crap (How'd that knuckle sandwich taste miss reporter?).
- Tali is love, Tali is life. No romantic interest in the first game.
- Destroy/red end. @#$% ME3's version of the Reapers and the ludicrously pathetic "Start Child". It's also the only ending where Shepard supposedly survives if you unlock that cutscene.
- See above.
One thing I'd like to bring up though. Have you heard the more emotional scenes with Jennifer Hale compared to Mark Meer? Jennifer does a way
better job bringing your emotions out. See here:
You can't tell me that the voice cracking and sadness in Jennifer Hale's speech at the first dialogue choice isn't more emotional than Mark Meers'.
Oh and that's the only way you'll ever see Shepard cry; you have to romance Thane (so Femshep is needed), he has to live to ME3, then you have to hold the memorial service during the Citadel DLC and listen to the 4th message he leaves you. I can't even think about that without tearing up.